A first step we can take is to make a pro/con list about fear in our lives. Once we've listed out the pros and cons, we can ask the following questions:
- What are the benefits that it brings to our lives? What good is it doing?
- What are the negatives? What "bad" does it bring to our lives?
- Do the "goods" really outweigh the "bads"? Is the fear worth it?
After we've evaluated these fears, we can take a step towards changing them. Sometimes, the best thing for me to do is find a distraction. Rather than thinking about all of the "worst case scenarios" and dwelling on my fears, I've found it better for me to distract myself. At a later time, the situation may not seem as dire as I thought.
- What are some alternatives to worrying?
- What could we be doing with that "wasted" time?
- How can we distract ourselves from this fear?
- Learn to sew! (Or quilt)
- Do a crossword/wordsearch.
- Write a letter to someone.
- Watch a fun Disney movie.
- Learn a new hobby.
- Plan your future wedding on Pinterest.
Those are just some ideas that I came up with. There are so many things out there that can be distractions from the moment. The idea is to get your mind to "step out of" the fear. It doesn't have to be a "productive" thing, and I've found it's best to do something that doesn't require a whole lot of "brain effort" or thinking.